Monday, May 11, 2015

The Shadow (And More About "The Talk")

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Thomas worked last night and he once again bravely walked home in the dark. He had a little incident where his shadow scared him but he said he recovered from the quickly. I've got to say that I am more anxious about him walking home in the dark than he is. I am very proud of him, though, for taking that on and continuing to do that. I think it's a good sign of stability coming back. Thank God!

I mentioned in my two previous posts that there was more to my conversation with Thomas moving out. As it turned out, he came to me after we got in the house and had been relaxing a while and asked me if he could move out if Jon were to learn how to handle him during a crisis. Thomas told me that Jon was willing to learn about schizophrenia too. I think that's sweet and the sign of a good friend but I just didn't think that right now was the time for that. I told Thomas that learning about schizophrenia takes time and experience and I didn't really believe Jon could commit to that. I could be wrong but I maintain that now is not the time for that sort of thing. I'm still wanting Thomas to be stable for a longer period of time and to master some basic life skills before I send him out to live with anyone else. To Thomas's credit in the last few days, he has worked hard at doing things that need to get done that I remind him of. I'd like to see the day when I don't have to remind him at all.

At dinner time I stopped in Thomas's room to let him know that dinner was ready and he had pulled up on his computer an apartment complex website and he wanted to me check it out. It was a much better option and room for just him and Jon. That would be a more ideal situation but still one that he needs to wait for. I did read in the description of the apartment that there were washer/dryer hook-ups and I told him that meant that he'd have to go elsewhere to do his laundry since he wouldn't have a washer/dryer to hook up in the apartment. He said nothing about bringing it home to do which I thought was pretty cool but I wanted him to know that carting laundry somewhere else was an extra step to doing laundry and one he might not take advantage of. He closed his computer and came to dinner.

It's not that I don't want him to move out, it's just that I'd like the conditions to be more ideal. I think a two bedroom apartment with one friend, near home and work, not to mention some solid stability, is the order of the day. I do see it in his future but how far into the future I do not know.

As for Thomas's weight, he's doing much better with his snacking. I think he is like his grandpa in that way in that when he sets his mind to something, he does it. I can't remember when that happened last but it's happened a few times. My dad, when faced with having to give something up, used to just stop the thing he was doing and he'd stick to it. I always admired that about him because I'm not so great at that myself. It's nice to see that quality manifest in Thomas.

On another note, I have started "family" therapy with my mom which so far manifests as me sitting there while she gets therapy. However, in our first session I talked about my grief about losing my dad and I got to get out some of the secrets I have held about the day he died. It felt good to be able to utter the words to someone about what I knew. I did completely break down, though, but ultimately it has helped me a great deal. We have therapy again today so we'll see what comes out of it. I am generally just an observer of things as opposed to actually getting involved so just being able to see my mom get therapy helps me. I learn a lot from that process.

Lastly, Schizophrenia Awareness Week is coming up. I am very excited about that. Every time there has been an awareness week I have worked on huge projects for that week for all of you to share with your friends on Facebook and Twitter. I hope this time will be no different and you'll help me get the information out there. When I have exact dates, I'll let you know and we'll begin our prep for it.

Well, it's Monday, the beginning of a new week. Let's hope it's a good one, okay?

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